COMMITMENT: A ten letter word consisting of 3 vowels and 7 consonants; a word that symbolizes union, loyalty, monogamy, togetherness, love, mutual respect and perhaps all those priceless sentiments which we hold in such high esteem. It’s a word almost always associated with marriage; a word that means so much in theory. Yet in practice is so more often than not reduced to a mere string of alphabetical letters.
Marriages today are crumbling for lack of commitment. So why get married in the first place if you have no intention of being loyal?</b> Most ‘contemporary’ women, it seems, have tuned into ‘Desperate Housewives’. The infamous line of “It meant nothing. It was just sex’ being the buzz. Yes, times are hard, there is too much temptation, we are only human, and we all make mistakes. But there are some who actually think it’s OK to sleep around because it really is just sex. At the end of the day, they are going home to their to their partner; they are providing for their partner, they are ‘committed’ to their partner. So what’s the bid deal?
The irony is it is a big deal. Because commitment is clearly no longer what it used to be, the word has developed a whole new meaning. It’s rarely about being together in sickness and health, for richer or poorer etc. Today, it’s about selfish needs. Marriage now rests on ‘convenience’.
Confusing the C word…
Mention the ‘C’ word and you are bound to get varied responses. A sexy bombshell, who has been in a couple of high-profile romance says, “It means everything to me.” while her equally sexy sister says, “It’s just become a word”. Another heartthrob candidly confesses that six months ago, he would have been working his charm on the ladies but today, he is in a serious relationship and doesn’t want to break his sweetheart’s trust, especially since his track record sucks!
A young hottie sincerely feels ‘he can keep love and sex separate’. He believes that he can never ever love another, yet he has faltered on occasions simply for physical reasons. He calls it ‘A momentary flirtation’. His lifelong “commitment” is to only one lady. What does this prove? Utter confusion and a warped sense of values!
But fear not, for there is hope yet. Nick and Christopher, a married couple, says you can never go wrong if you marry your best friend. They would never abuse each other’s trust. Jonathan, who has been married for three years, explains although there is temptation, he wouldn’t cheat on his partner simply because of his faith in God and respect for his partner. Jim can’t bear the thought of his wife cheating on him. Is he tempted? No, because the mere thought of her leaving him along with the kids, if he ever faltered, is worse than death!
There are others who are afraid of ‘settling down’. Steve, 40, remains a bachelor because he is not ready to settle down. He is an incredible man who has the distinction of being friends with every single one of his ex-girlfriends, simply because he has never lied to them about ‘commitment’. Today, the ‘C’ word has multiple meanings. One only hoped it wouldn’t equate to multiple partners!
Why people stay in a relationship or a marriage?
A relationship depends on how one views it. When married, it becomes a special investment, which also has religious connotations. Being with a person for a long period of time gives rise to emotions like affection and love. So people are compromise at the sake of their values. Also, a sense of security comes into play. But selfish motives can also allow a person to stick around for functional purposes.
Why are people scared of making a commitment?
People scared of committing usually suffer from some deep-seated emotional problems. A basic sense of insecurity could also lead to a situation wherein a partner is not willing to commit. While you can’t say whether its men or women who are less likely to commit, the most obvious reason as to why people are scared to commit is the lack of mutual trust.
Commitment can be one of the scariest things that many men face in their lives. Everything is great as long as their girlfriends don’t expect them to totally commit to them, and only them. There’s just something about saying to someone that you’ll be only with them from now on that strikes terror in the hearts of a lot of guys. It’s because of this that it’s difficult for many women to know whether or not their boyfriends are fully committed to them. They certainly don’t want to bring up the subject because that can end everything and send the guys running for the hills. So the question becomes how can you tell if he’s committed to you or not?
Looking at the way your guy reacts when you mention things such as weddings of friends or relatives will give you a big clue as to how he feels about permanent commitment. If he turns pale and sweaty, you’ve probably got a man on your hands that would rather throw himself off of a Hawaiian cliff rather than get married. He also most likely will avoid the subject like the plague. You’ll notice lots of subject changing.
Those are just the major ways of telling how your guy feels about commitment. On the other hand, if he loves talking about weddings, loves babies, and can’t wait to move in with you, then you’ve got yourself a commitment in the making.
Another thing to notice is how he is around children, babies in particular. If he doesn’t seem to want to be around them and will do all he can to avoid this event, chances are good that he’s not close to committing to you, or, probably, anyone else. Babies tend to frighten men that don’t want a commitment because they see babies as the final nail in the coffin of entrapment. You see, babies are a true responsibility and it means that you’re tied together for the rest of your life.
While guys may be amenable to moving in together, if they feel that you’ll take this to mean that they’re committed to you, it might not happen. Moving in with someone means that the relationship is being taken to the next level, that level being one where a commitment is involved. If they feel as if you’re going to expect more from them with a live in situation, they’ll probably pass on it and insist that your relationship is more exciting when you each have your own places to call home.
Take a cue from the reactions you get as to whether or not you should simply sit him down and have a long honest heart to heart talk about where the relationship is going. If you get the feeling that he may become less interested in even being in a relationship if the subject is nailed down, you’ll probably want to wait before bringing it up. This may be a difficult thing to do if you’re ready for a full blown commitment and he doesn’t seem to be.
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The Shockingly Simple But Alarming Reason Why Smart, Strong, Successful Women Have A Harder Time Finding Quality Men Than ‘Average’ Women!
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“The Most Amazing Book Ever!”
“Hi Evan, I’ve been reading your emails and recently purchased your e-book “Why He Disappeared”. Not because I was looking for an answer but just to see what it was all about, and OMG It has got to be one of the most, perhaps better say, the most AMAZING BOOK EVER. Even if a person is not in that situation, they should still purchase it as it gives insight of sooooooo many things that one, as a woman, would never even dream that we could be making such mistakes. I honestly recommend it to every lady out there. It’s a must have!!!! It’s not even an option, even if you are in a stable relationship or no relationship at all, it doesn’t matter, every woman out there should have a copy!!!”
- Ever wondered why you seem to attract all the wrong TYPES of men…
- Ever wondered why your girlfriends, co-workers, and acquaintances all seem to be involved in healthy, loving relationships (even if they’re not as pretty or intelligent as you) – but you aren’t…
- Ever wondered why the GOOD men always seem to disappear from your life…
- Gone from wondering “when” you will meet the man of your dreams… to wondering “if” good men even EXIST…
- Ever felt anxiety, frustration, even fear that you will NEVER find a good man… and dread the prospect of being alone forever…
…then this will be the most important message you will EVER read!
My name is Evan Marc Katz, and I’m known as a “Personal Trainer For Women Who Want To Fall In Love.”
And in the next few minutes I’m going to show you how to stop making the dating mistakes (you may not even know you’re making) that prevent smart, strong, successful women (like YOU!) from getting the GOOD men you desire and deserve.
PLUS, I’m going to reveal not only how to stop these subconscious mistakes but I’m going to show you how to ATTRACT and KEEP a man who is worthy of YOU…
Here’s what this is all about.
Why Don’t Men Like Strong, Smart, Successful Women?
Before I explain to you what you’re too close to see, I want to share a hypothetical letter I received from a man who is struggling in love, just like you:
I’m what you’d call a “nice guy.” I make a good living, I’m pretty attractive, and I treat women well. In fact, all of my female friends comment on what a great catch I am. But then I see those same women dating jerks. Yet they would never consider going out with me! So what do you think? Am I cursed to be alone just because I know how to be kind to women? Isn’t being nice a good quality? What’s wrong with women these days? Please let me know.
Men reading this might empathize with Jason.
But while you may feel bad for Jason, you’d also want to him to know that it’s not BECAUSE he’s nice that he’s not attracting women. It’s because he’s doesn’t have masculine energy. It’s because he constantly seeks the approval of others. It’s because he’s not sexually aggressive. It’s because he sacrifices his personal power to be conciliatory. These are common attributes of nice guys, yet nice guys think that women don’t like nice guys BECAUSE they’re nice.
Not true. Women want nice guys – nice guys with opinions who stand up for themselves and know how to take control.
Smart women are very much like nice guys.
“I’m intelligent, I’m direct, I’m successful, yet I can’t seem to find a quality guy who appreciates me.”
But here’s the truth: men actually like smart women.
My smart, strong, successful male counterparts do as well.
So how is it that you haven’t met any of them?
Well, you probably have, actually.
Is It Possible That You’ve Already Met Your Soul-Mate – The Man You Were Meant To Be With – But When You Met He Didn’t Feel The Same Connection?
Your perfect man would immediately recognize your beauty, wit, charm, intelligence, and kindness, right?
Well despite what you may think, when you meet a man, there’s much more going on than merely a meeting of the minds.
Your good qualities sometimes come with a significant downside that is painful to acknowledge.
Take me, for example. I’m a reasonably bright guy. I make a fair living. I can write a decent book. These are my good traits. But right behind my good traits are a series of bad traits. Even my own wife would acknowledge that:
The flip side of being bright is being opinionated.
The flip side of being analytical is being difficult.
The flip side of being funny is being sarcastic.
The flip side of having moral clarity is being arrogant.
The flip side of being entrepreneurial is being a workaholic.
The flip side of being charismatic is being self-centered.
Again, not EVERY person who is bright is opinionated, and not EVERY person who is funny is sarcastic. But there’s enough anecdotal evidence to suggest a strong correlation. And I’m just talking about MYSELF here. And if my good qualities come with bad qualities, have you considered that yours might as well?
Is your blood boiling at me yet? All because I’m telling you something essential to understanding men that you’ve gone your entire life without knowing?
What never occurs to you is that you’re being evaluated on far more than your most “impressive” traits.
The Critical Missing “Puzzle Piece” That Could Change Your Love Life Forever…
And this is what escapes most strong, smart, successful women.
This is the secret to creating a love that LASTS.
Just in case you didn’t get it, let me sum up the secret for you right now.
Understand what men really want – not what they SHOULD want – and you’ll have your PICK of quality men!
I know you’re undoubtedly a great catch.
You can teach us a thing or two.
You are a go-getter and worthy of everyone’s respect.
But if that go-getter side ends up emasculating your man, or makes him feel insignificant, or second-guessed, he’s not really getting what he wants out of a partner.
Men want to feel masculine.
We want to feel needed.
And When You Can Consistently Make Us Feel This Way You Will Discover A Whole New World Of Quality Men You Never Knew Existed!
It’s true, once you understand this perspective, your love life starts to get very interesting, and very exciting – very quickly!
I’m about to show you how, by revealing how to APPLY this secret into your love life!
But first, a warning.
The majority of what I’m about to reveal may seem counter-intuitive – maybe even hard to believe. But that should actually be affirming and comforting.
Because if everything you’ve been conditioned to believe about men, about dating, and about love was correct –then you wouldn’t be reading this letter.
You’d already be in a happy, committed relationship with the man of your dreams!
Since you’re not, I’d think you’d be extremely interested in learning…
The 3 Biggest Dating Truths
That Most Women Will NEVER Know About Men!
(and how they can finally give you the deep,
loving relationship you’ve always desired…)
You see, I’ve got a feeling you’ve spent a lot of time beating yourself up over things you couldn’t control. Things like…
- Why men don’t see you as “relationship material” and not want a serious relationship with you…
- Why you keep choosing all the wrong men…
- Why men may lose interest in you, even after several dates or being intimate with you…
- Why some men may see you as “needy”, even if you’re not…
- Why you will feel that men have all of the power in your relationships, and you have none…
- Why the few men you ARE attracted to never stick around…
And I’m here to tell you that all of these issues are NOT YOUR FAULT!
That’s right, like I told you before, you’ve been programmed since childhood to believe a particular set of principles.
The tragic thing about this is… they’re sometimes more harmful then helpful.
I know they want nothing but the best for you, but everyone from your mother and your girlfriends, to Oprah and Cosmo have been feeding you these same, misleading theories because they aren’t men – and they don’t fully understand what makes us tick.
So if what you’ve been doing thus far hasn’t been working, it’s time to try something new.
Here’s EXACTLY what you need to know to STOP the good men from disappearing from your life, in order to create real love that lasts…
Why A Man Will Pull Away
When It’s Time To Commit…
If you’ve ever been baffled at how men sometimes pull away from you when it’s time to commit, believe me, I understand. I’ve been dumped before and I remember the raw confusion, trying to reconcile how something so good could possibly go bad.
Now as a man, I don’t claim to speak for every guy, everywhere. I only speak for good, solid, relationship oriented men – the guys who are over the drama of dating hot, crazy women. Guys who want to date hot, crazy women aren’t really good relationship bets, so you shouldn’t worry too much when they disappear.
Anyway, every normal guy has had the experience of dating someone attractive and then breaking up with her. The physical is what pulls us in, but there’s a high price to pay for this kind of dysfunctional relationship.
You’ve probably done the same thing: been so drawn by attraction that you never looked up and considered that you’re always fighting, you’re always breaking up, and that, in between the great sex, there’s very little peace and contentment.
Are men drawn to smart, strong, successful women? You bet. The same way that you’re drawn to smart, strong, successful men. Really. Those characteristics are universally attractive and are considerable assets to you.
But where women and men often diverge is that we’re looking for different things. You’re looking for a man who is taller, stronger, smarter, funnier, wealthier.
We’re not. We’re looking for what we doesn’t have ourselves, what we can’t get at work, what we can’t get from our male friends: warmth, compassion, kindness, generosity, femininity.
Thus, your brains and beauty will always attract men, but they won’t keep them.
Men may not even be able to articulate this themselves, but we want to feel needed, trusted, important, masculine, sexy, smart, funny, and heroic. In other words, we want you to see us the way we see ourselves. We want you to treat us the way you want to be treated. We want to feel unconditionally loved and accepted, despite our many flaws.
And if we don’t get all of that, we’re going to find a woman who does.
That’s why it doesn’t matter how impressive you are. You could be a Rhodes Scholar/TopChef/Supermodel, but if we constantly feel criticized, micromanaged, unattractive, emasculated, pressured and undermined, we’re gonna move on.
So when you’re trying to assess how to keep a guy around, remember:
Men are about feelings, not about looks.
Make us feel like a million bucks and we’re not going anywhere.
“I Had Soooo Many ‘Aha’ Moments!”
“So eight months ago, I was a clueless girl who was good at scaring guys away. But throughout my life I had never been taught how to handle men. I took guesses with everything I did, and a lot of the time it didn’t end very well. Guy after guy broke my heart. I was so sick of it, so I decided to do something about it.
I bought the ebook ‘Why He Disappeared’. BEST money I’ve ever spent, worth every penny! I had soooo many ‘aha!’ moments: I realised all the things I had been doing wrong all this time. I made a pledge to change my dating approaches, and soon after, the best thing happened to me.
A month later after getting the book, the guy of my dreams asked me out. He was everything that I could have asked for! I could not believe that by applying all of Evan’s advice could help us to fall in love with each other.
A month after being with him, he told me that he realised I was the one for him. He texts me first everyday and always replies promptly to my messages. I never ever have worry thinking ‘is he going to text me?’ or ‘is he going to reply?’. He calls me beautiful and he treats me so nicely. He’s understanding, supportive and doesn’t pressure me to do anything. He’s so fun to hang out with, and his playful teasing makes me giggle. He always wants to spend time with me, and he hints at a big future.
We have been in love for seven months now. Evan, you simply are a genius!! I cannot thank you enough for the amazing work you wrote in WHD. I think you have helped me to find the one!”
The Single Biggest Dating Mistake That Women Make… And What You Can Do About It!
You ACCEPT The Wrong Men)
What happens when you find yourself incredibly attracted to a man? Well, there’s the feeling of chemistry and everything that comes along with it – the obsessive highs that come with wanting to be with him, the joy of feeling incredibly connected, and, what you may forget, the willful blindness that allows you to overlook his flaws.
That’s one of the most miraculous things about chemistry: it allows you to focus only on the good and ignore all the bad.
This is incredibly apparent to me since I receive hundreds of comments from women every week – attributing their relationship failures to attracting the wrong men. First of all, let’s get one thing straight:
MOST men are the wrong men. If you were an average woman, you’d be able to be with an average man and be content. Since you’re an above average woman – smart, strong, successful – your standards are going to go up accordingly.
So if, by your standards, 95% of men are the WRONG men, it makes it that much harder to find ANY guy to date, and makes each new man who does qualify seem all the more important. Once a guy passes through your strong chemistry filter, he’s in.
By this point, you’ve forgotten the fundamental downside of chemistry: it allows you to focus only on the good and ignore all the bad.
Which is why you can have incredible chemistry and end up in a TERRIBLE relationship, where he doesn’t call you, doesn’t sleep with you, doesn’t compliment you, doesn’t make you feel safe, and doesn’t commit to you.
But you stick around because of how strong your rare FEELINGS are. You’ve now discovered the real secret to why you’re in dead end relationships:
You don’t attract the wrong men, you accept the wrong men.
If you consistently find yourself in relationships with liars, cheaters, addicts, leeches, or commitmentphobes, your job isn’t to get them to stop lying, cheating, drinking, mooching or committing. Your job is to leave.
At a certain point, it’s not his fault for being flawed.
It’s your fault for thinking that your chemistry is powerful enough to change your broken relationship. Remember, most men are the wrong men. Men with chemistry are the ones who break through, but you give them a free pass, even when they don’t deserve it.
You’ll never stop attracting the wrong men, but starting now, you can stop ACCEPTING the bad behavior of the wrong men… and save yourself years of heartbreak and pain.
“Life and Dating Is Fun Again!”
“Prior to finding your website I was in a dead-end relationship. Again. I was seeing my ex on a regular basis desperately trying to be the one he would commit to. He broke up with me three years ago. But I had not been able to move on because I was hoping that I could change my self and that he would soon start to love me the way I certainly loved him. So he became a friend with benefits…leaving me in a hopeless state.
Anyway I found your “Why De Disappeared…” book five months ago, and it has meant the world to me, to read that I wasn’t alone about this situation. It gave me so many insights so I can’t count them all! But the one that really changed it for me was the one that said “he wasn’t such a great guy”. It made me think finally about who he really was, and how he had been treating me, and at last my rose-colored glasses fell off!! Hurrah! And it got me thinking of how I look at myself and how I immediately try to change myself to fit the man I meet instead of first see if he is a man I would like to meet!
After all the insights from your book, I managed to tell my ex that we were finished with each other. I was even able to stick with that decision even though he tried to meet up again. I saw so clearly that he’d been treating me poorly for as long as I knew him and he wasn’t such a great guy at all. I finally figured out that I deserved better.
Better yet, I met a new man that treats me like a queen. He is a real giver, kind, considerate, generous, eager to make me feel safe and secure. We have been seeing each other for four months and it keeps getting better. And even though I am happy with him I don’t jump to any conclusions about the future, I just relax and let things unfold naturally. I give all the credit to you, Evan!!
Without all your teachings about men and how they think I would not been able to move on. I am so grateful for all your teachings and your wonderful humour that lightens up the whole subject. It means the world to me. I also appreciate the lighthearted tone you have, since I’ve been so depressed about the whole men thing for quite some time. But thanks again, dear Evan. You cured me!
Life and dating is fun again.
Much love, ”
Open And Love or Close and Suffer…
(Why You Have to Assume the Best,
Rather Than the Worst in Men)
“Open and love or close and suffer” – David Deida
You’ve been hurt by men before. You’ve been hurt bad. You’ve vowed to learn from the experience and protect yourself from that ever happening again.
And to protect yourself from being hurt by a man, you:
Choose not to date at all.
Try to make him earn your trust.
Pull away from a guy at the first hint of trouble.
Tell him your relationship goals on the first few dates.
Want to clarify where things are headed in the first few months.
Those are all perfectly rational. The problem is: the only thing you’re protecting yourself from is the possibility of falling in love.
Let me explain.
Look at your life. You probably work a minimum of 40 hours a week. You probably have friends and hobbies and family. You’re probably really, really, wary of men.
And because of your previous experience, you do everything in your power to prevent the “wrong men” from getting in. You’re vigilant about looking for the red flags to protect yourself from getting hurt. And you find them everywhere you go. As a result, you remain single for years at a time.
Think of it like a visual metaphor. You live in a house. Mr. Right is walking down the street, trying to find his Ms. Right. There are two houses right next to each other that look identical. They’re gorgeous, modern, spacious, well-decorated, inviting. Except for one minor thing. The house on the left has a 10 foot brick wall around it. The house on the right has an open door, upbeat music playing, and the smell of chocolate chip cookies wafting out.
Which of these identical houses do you think Mr. Right is going to peek into?
It’s kind of a no-brainer.
Now you can make the argument that the RIGHT man would try to figure out how to scale the 10 foot wall. You can make the argument that the REASON there’s a wall is that there’s some crime in the neighborhood and you’d been robbed twice before. You can justify that protective wall in every way possible. But it doesn’t change the bottom line.
A good man doesn’t need to break down or scale your wall. He’s just going to look for a warm, inviting, open door.
To take it even further:
A good man will not be able to find you if you’re working 11 hours a day.
A good man doesn’t need to earn your trust if he’s never done anything wrong.
A good man may have a number of characteristics that you might not like.
A good man takes relationships seriously and can’t promise that he will know after a few months that you are destined for the altar.
So while I deeply empathize with you if you’re trying to avoid “wasting” time by trying to figure out the future before HE knows the future. Just know that you’re sabotaging any real chance you have to form a real trusting connection.
You have to go in with an open mind and a clear head. At any point you have the right to determine that he’s not the one for you, and he has the right to determine that you’re not the one for him. It’s called dating.
Instead of trying to figure everything out up front to protect yourself from getting hurt, give yourself to the process and let him reveal his character over time.
Opening the door and assuming the best will make the good men gravitate towards you.
Treat him as if he’s going to hurt you and a good guy is not going to want to stick around.
“This Has Made Me Feel So Powerful!”
“I am in a seven-month relationship with a man who I have seen you describe as the “macho” type. (That is just his façade though, he’s really sweet and sensitive inside). Anyway, my macho man doesn’t give me tons and tons of positive feedback – I think he thinks I KNOW how he feels. I got “Why He Disappeared” because I really love being with John and I didn’t want my insecurities to mess things up. I have been getting your emails since before I met him and your approach has made a big difference to how I react with this man who makes my insides squishy! I really wanted to get specifics on what men want!
I learned what he needed from me and I used the advice on our recent weekend in Vermont. I made him feel good being around me. I was the fun, sexy, carefree girlfriend that guys want to be around. He very obviously had fun on our weekend. He was proud to have me around his friends and after that weekend, he has warmed up considerably. This has made me feel so powerful!
Thanks Evan! ”
Now, How Would You Like The Blueprint to Magnetically Attracting and KEEPING The Man Of Your Dreams?
If you learned something just now, and are curious to know how deep this rabbit hole goes, then here’s some REALLY good news.
As a smart, strong, successful woman who is probably a bit jaded about the possibility of finding a quality man, have you ever wondered…
- What signs you can use to identify that a man wants a relationship and is not “damaged goods”?
- How you can tell whether a man will likely act with integrity and honesty in a relationship?
- The best way to weed out the game-players quickly?
Or have you ever wondered…
- Why do men fool around? Why do they lie and cheat and refuse to let you go, while keeping you hanging on without a commitment?
- Why do some women get attracted to “bad boys” and often spend years trapped in abusive situations with selfish and narcissistic men?
- Why do you always seem to date the same people: guys who treat you poorly. Why are you not attracted to the guys who treat you well?
Heck, some of these experiences may keep happening to you again and again and again – which is why I am so excited to introduce you to my groundbreaking new e-book
“Why He Disappeared – The Smart, Strong, Successful Woman’s Guide to Understanding Men and Keeping the Right One Hooked Forever.”
In it, I finally reveal what men REALLY talk about when you’re not around.
But instead of trying to explain it…
Here’s an actual taste of what’s inside “Why He Disappeared!”
|Part 1 Why He Disappeared After Your Date|
- Why the traits you value most in men are probably NOT the same traits a man values in YOU. PLUS – how to use this to your advantage… (page 26)
- How an ancient Zen Buddhist philosophy will dramatically help shortcut your path to success with men (page 27)
- Have your cake and eat it too! How, by letting go of control of the small things, you get to win the more important issues, and still have a healthy relationship with a type A male! (page 32)
- The most startling revelation for strong, smart, and successful women who desire strong, smart, and successful men…After you “get” this, it’ll change your perspective on dating forever! (page 35)
- The TINY thing you can do on your dates to create a HUGE positive impact with men! And no it doesn’t involve showing more skin, “dumbing yourself down,” or changing who you are in any way… (page 44)
- Your personal checklist to making a man feel special… how many of these are you getting right… and wrong? (page 52-53)
- The surefire way to turn a horrible date… into a GREAT date! Don’t worry, it’s not as hard as you think… (page 54-55)
|Part 2 Why He Disappeared During Your Courtship|
- Why knowing “why” a man disappeared is completely pointless… and what you should REALLY focus on once he’s gone… (page 64)
- The most infuriating, but liberating concept you’ll read in “Why He Disappeared” – and how it could save you years of headache, frustration, and resentment towards men! (page 65)
- Better than X-Ray Vision: how to determine – from the onset – which men are the real deal and which men will break your heart! (page 66)
- The specific list of behaviors that may make him think you’re clingy… even if you’re not! (page 69)
- How doing NOTHING can actually be the most proactive and helpful thing you can do during the courtship period! (page 70)
- The hard and fast rule about when to have sex. I cover this subject in explicit detail so that you’ll never be hurt by a player again… (page 80-85)
- The ONLY 2 things that reveal how a man REALLY feels about you. If he isn’t showing you these 2 things, then it’s a clear sign to move on… (page 89)
|Part 3 Why He Disappeared From Your Relationship|
- Why keeping the baggage from your prior, negative experiences will actually turn off the well-adjusted, open, relationship oriented men. (page 97)
- The single most attractive quality that a woman can exhibit to a man. Knowing this single piece of information can create a HUGE breakthrough in your dating life! (page 99)
- Why “always being yourself” could quite possibly be the WORST advice you could ever follow… (page 102)
- A personal account of how an extraordinary woman got a “player-for-life” to stop disappearing and start proposing! FYI – that player was ME! (page 103)
- The truth about “chemistry” and why it could be the most misleading quality in creating a love that lasts… (page 120)
- The 2 essential steps to being the “cool” girl that quality men want! What I’m telling you works like a charm on EVERY guy… (page 126)
- The most important, earth-shattering, and revolutionary advice that you can get about why he disappeared! HINT – it’s not what you think! (page 129)
Plus, you’ll get a whole lot more groundbreaking information designed to help you attract and keep the quality man you desire and deserve.
How To Tell If This Groundbreaking Book Is For YOU…
Every single day, I spend hours on the phone talking to women just like you.
When I say “I feel your pain,” I really feel it.
I wipe away virtual tears, give long-distance hugs, and deal with complex human emotions that come with this territory.
This is what I hear, daily:
MEN are the ones who slept with me and didn’t call.
MEN are the ones who acted like they cared and backed off.
MEN are the ones who allowed me to fall in love when they wouldn’t commit.
But there’s nothing you can do to change your past.
There’s nothing you can do to get revenge.
There’s nothing you can do to hurt him in the way he hurt you.
All you can do is vow not to make the same mistakes again – which means no more charming, charismatic, commitmentphobes who put their needs above yours.
From now on, the only things that will determine whether you let him into your heart are his kindness, his consistency, and his character.
- If, despite everything you’ve been through, if you are still open to the possibility of true love….
- If you can remain optimistic and remember the things you love about men – our strength, our humor, our generosity, our kindness…
- If you can keep an open mind and a “glass half-full” perspective while we take this journey together…
- If you’re willing to step outside of your comfort zone and at least TRY and embrace some of these new principles we’ll cover…
- And if you still believe in “happily ever after…”
Then “Why He Disappeared” is for you.
“I Just Need The Reminder
“I think I just needed the reminder that guys do not think like me and that they are not as “complex” as me. I also need the reminder to not “lead”. I am a very confident strong person who is very successful in my career and very well liked by my friends… I am laid back but yet I do have a hard time with control when it comes to my relationships. I was married to someone who was so dependent on me and so smothering that I completely lost all respect for him… But I also see that I formed our relationship that way. I don’t want that again – ever!
Now I can sit back and say yes the next time around.
I am still a work in progress 🙂 but at least I am working on it. Thank you for having a good perspective that doesn’t involve games. I am a very true – heart on my sleeve person that just wants to eventually find someone that adds more positivity and fun to my already great life.”
But Evan, I Already Know “Why He Disappeared”…
I have no doubt that there are plenty of instances when you knew exactly what happened.
He was a cheater.
He was a player.
He was a commitmentphobe.
He was emotionally unavailable.
Those guys are the worst and there’s nothing either of us can do to wish them away.
You can’t make cheaters stay faithful.
You can’t force a commitmentphobe to commit.
You can’t open up an emotionally unavailable guy to the beauty of vulnerability and trust.
There’s literally NOTHING to learn when your guy is too selfish to be in a relationship.
What you CAN learn by reading “Why He Disappeared” is why the GOOD guys might disappear – the ones you WANT to keep.
It’s easy to think that you already understand men based on all of your life experience.
But I’d ask you to reframe this in another way:
Do you think that most men really, truly, understand YOU?
Of course not!
So why do you think that you really, truly understand the motives of men?
The ability to understand what’s truly going on is paramount to your own happiness.
As a man, it’s my job to give you a tour inside the male mind and let you know what we’re REALLY thinking.
I think you’ll be quite surprised at what you learn.
“I Cannot Believe How Clueless I’ve Been About Dating!”
I’ve just finished reading the ebook & right now I wish the floor would open up and swallow me I’m shocked, embarassed and I cannot believe how clueless I’ve been about dating. When I play back the way I’ve behaved\handled situations in the past and how men read them, I am disappointed in myself & it feels like a saw cutting through my chest! I thought I had it all figured out – Great book and it left me speechless.
But I can see you now – arms crossed, an eyebrow raised, a skeptical look on your face…
And I can hear you saying…
“What’s the point, Evan?
If I can’t change men, why even bother to understand them?”
Because, after reading my eBook, “Why He Disappeared,” you will never again make ANY of the same mistakes you’ve made in the past.
You’ll be empowered with knowledge instead of grasping for straws about what the next guy is thinking.
You’ll literally ALWAYS make the right decisions in handling men – identifying and cut off the bad ones, opening up to the good ones, and learn how to make the best ones want to stick around forever.
“I don’t need this.
The real problem is that I just haven’t met the right guy.”
Maybe you haven’t met the right guy.
But, as a dating coach for smart, strong, successful women, I’d maintain that you might not even know him if you saw him.
I’m not putting you down – I was blind to what was good for me for most of my life.
Then I realized, from years of coaching women, what I was doing wrong myself.
So isn’t it possible that, like me, you’ve been choosing the wrong men? I think so.
To view it from another perspective, do you have any girlfriends about whom you could tell me EXACTLY why they’re still single?
Of course, you do.
They do, too.
“Why He Disappeared” tells you what you need to hear, not what you want to hear.
But what you need to hear – from a guy’s perspective – is exactly what’s going to set you free, and change your relationships with men forever.
“It’s Far Better To Let A Man Tell You How A Man Thinks!”
“Most of the books and information about men and dating that I have read were written by women… that’s mistake number 1. For many years I listened to my women friends dispense advice on how to relate and communicate with men.
Now, after reading Why He Disappeared, I understand that it’s far better to let a man tell you how a man thinks and feels when he’s dating!
The book helped me to understand the fundamental differences between men and women when it comes to dating and communicating. Men do not process information the way women do, so it makes no sense to expect that they will. Once I grasped that concept, my expectations changed and my frustration dissipated.
The best lesson from Why He Disappeared that I learned was the simplest — Just. Do. Nothing. It freed me up and empowered me to focus on other areas of my life while continuing to date.”
“The problem isn’t me…
I’m not, for one second, defending men who have mistreated you in any way.
I’m not defending guys who sleep with you once and never call again.
I’m not defending guys who only communicate by text message and booty call.
I’m not defending guys who string you along for five years without proposing.
I’m pointing out that those men will ALWAYS exist, no matter what I say or do.
The reason I wrote Why He Disappeared is because the solution to this is not to close your eyes and wish these men away, but to keep reading and realize how to identify these men and break away from them before they do their damage.
Once you avoid the unhealthiest of men, the NEXT question is how to make the healthy ones – the millions of men who DO want to get married – choose to stick with YOU.
“I Had Been Badly Hurt By A Cheater When I Was 25…”
“WHD let me find out why I’ve been single until the age of 50. I’ve had doubts about men ever since I was badly hurt by a cheater when I was 25. Since then, instead of meeting a guy, I put my energy into my career. I worked in the financial industry, got an MBA, got my Green Card 3 years ago and got a better job. But I still never felt content. I started to find that my work was merely an escape from dating and marriage.
Your WHD ‘Chapter 2’ showed me that my suspicious attitude toward men made guys uncomfortable around me. I have to completely erase that suspicion and see that every guy is different. WHD helped me get over nearly three decades of being sad. Thank you very much. I am 50 but hope to find love soon.”
Okay Evan, so I MIGHT be interested…
but how much does “Why He Disappeared” cost?
It’s interesting, just the other day I was thinking about why some women complain about their love lives, yet will do NOTHING to change their situations – even when the solution is staring at them in the face.
And I realized that these women simply must not put as much value on love and happiness as they think.
Which really got me thinking: What IS valuable?
Is value derived from how much pleasure you get out of something? A trip to Paris. A new Mercedes. A gorgeous pair of shoes.
Or is value derived from how much pain is prevented? Chemo to eradicate a cancerous tumor. A year of therapy to help you cope with a loss. An eyelift to make you feel younger.
Personally, I think the removal of pain is a LOT more valuable – for two reasons.
- The value of a purchase diminishes over time. Your shoes, your car, your vacation…all feel amazing at the time, but it’s usually a temporary high.
- The value of pain removal is priceless and lasts forever. Removing pain frees you up to live a happy, healthy, carefree life. You can buy all the cars and trips you want, but if you are sad or sick, it doesn’t really matter.
It’s hard to put a price on happiness or pain, but each time you make an investment, you’re doing just that.
Me, too. My physical therapist is supposed to heal my bad hip. Apparently, it’s worth a few thousand dollars for me to be able to run again. It’s not that I’m a triathlete, but by removing my source of pain, I stand to be a much happier person.
In short, removing pain opens you up to pleasure.
So let me ask you: how much pain have you been carrying around due to a lifetime of disappointing relationships?
What has it cost you emotionally each time you’ve gotten your heart broken?
What has it cost you in terms of time, energy, mental health, and happiness?
How much would it be worth if you could remove the source of your pain FOREVER, and create the opportunity for EVERLASTING LOVE with a good man?
Would it be worth more than the $25,000+ you’d pay for a car?
Would it be worth more than the $5000+ you’d pay for a nice vacation?
Would it be worth the $2500+ you’d pay for a computer and printer?
I think it would.
If removing the source of your relationship pain can immediately make you happier AND lay the groundwork for you to find love, I’d think you’d do so, at any cost.
Thankfully, my new book, “Why He Disappeared,” does not cost $25,000. 🙂
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